Is it realistic to expect teens to be abstinate?
If parents and the community expect abstinance, teens will respond accordingly.
Posted By mama_k on September 13, 2007
If kids are taught from a young age that sex is something for marriage, ...
Posted By mama_k on September 13, 2007
If we teach our children by exmaple they will not engage in premarital s...
Posted By Pamela1129 on September 20, 2007
Communication and strong family values can make abstinence very possible.
Posted By Perdie on September 20, 2007
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If culture expects abstinance from its teens, they will be.
If kids are taught from a young age that sex is something for marriage, they can and will wait.
-- Posted By mama_k on September 13, 2007If they are taught that they will be mentally and physically healthier if they wait, they will wait. . If they are taught that the primary purpose of sex is to create life, and that they need to be prepared to support that new life, they will wait. If they are taught that loving someone means you want the very best for that person, and that pre-marital sex is never the best thing long-term, they will wait. If parents are involved with their kids; knowing their friends and monitoring their activities and encourage their teens to have many friends and not pair off, they will be more likely to wait. Our American culture seems programmed to teach that "everybody's doing it" and "no matter what your parents say, you'll do it, too." We need to change that, starting in our own homes.
Communication and strong family values can make abstinence very possible.
-- Posted By Perdie on September 20, 2007If the subject is not hidden and if the parents are willing to have open discussions, then teens will be more willing to accept the choice of abstinence. .
If we teach our children by exmaple they will not engage in premarital sex.
-- Posted By Pamela1129 on September 20, 2007Abstinence does work if the parents are there for their children and teach them that abstaining before marriage is the right thing to do. Parents need to be better examples. .
It's ridiculous to think that your kids won't ever make a mistake, so why not educate them in case they do, rather than have a pregnant teen in the house?
"If they are taught that they will be mentally and physically healthier if they wait, they will wait. ."
We're teaching them that right now. It's not exactly working. Take for example Bristol Palin. Even when kids are taught (in your opinion) the correct things, well it's not always going to work out.
So, Let's be realistic. Most teens will have sex (which is attributed to many things including the sexualization of our culture) But even when our culture was "unsexualized" (40's, 50's) teens were still having sex. It was just swept under the rug.
You can't just teach teens abstinence. It's not a realistic solution, at all. We need to teach them about the real world.
Teens will always have sex, not matter how they're taught otherwise.
Maybe not ALL teens will have sex no matter what, but many will.
-- Posted By Alice on January 3, 2008I think that it is NOT realistic to expect ALL of your teenage children to abstain from having sex. Its in the media, its influencing them from their friends, its everywhere. True that if you teach them early on that sex before marriage is a bad thing they will CONSIDER your teachings, but that doesn't guarantee the out come that you want. I think that families should teach what ever values they hold dear, and that the publics school environments should teach them how to have sex safely if they should choose to live a sexual lifestyle.
I think that teaching your children your beliefs while they are growing up is a responsible thing to do. I think that the likely response is that they will live by your teachings. That though is not always the case. You are not the only ones teaching them and no matter how hard you try to dissuade them from certain lifestyles they can and possibly will go against your wishes. It is wrong to assume that every parent that has a wayward child wasn't teaching them correctly. There are many parents out there who try their best to teach their children a lifestyle that will make them happy. There are many sad stories out there also.
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I consider myself a "Republi-cat" or a "Demo-can" 'cause frankly, both sides have their merit, and both drive me crazy. I'm the wife of one guy, mom of two girls, sister of three brothers & 2 SIL's...